IN THE PRESS
Now, pretending everything's okay
is your specialty.
And you don't know how to advocate for yourself at work, or articulate your needs to your partner, or tell your friends how much it bothers you that you're their go-to but have no one to go to.
You're ready to do whatever it takes to shift the culture of your life and to make sure your daughter never has to suffer like this.
You want more out of life than the accomplishments you hide behind.
But respect, traditions, and fear of the "But that's your mom" posse have caused you to shrink so small you can't even envision the version of you who will get it.
You've tried speaking your heart to your mother, hopeful that being vulnerable and sharing how much you desire a deeper bond with her would fix things.
Unfortunately, all she did in return was lash out on you and remind you that she did the best she could and you didn't grow up nearly as bad as she did.
"I feel affirmed about creating distance with my mom."
For years, I've had lingering anger and resentment toward my mom's emotional absence and manipulation and have needed to process my relationship with her and figure out how to proceed and protect my mental health. Coming here has made me feel less alone and more affirmed in my decision to create distance with her.
Through our parent company, Radical Change Therapy, we offer individual, family, and group therapy for generational cursebreaking women and girls with mother-daughter trauma.
YOU'RE A PERFECT FIT FOR OUR SERVICES IF YOUR MOTHER-DAUGHTER TRAUMA MANIFESTS AS:
You put other people's needs and wants before your own (including your mom's)
You only feel "loved" or needed when you're finding and fixing other people's problems (including your mom's).
Your self-defeating thoughts lead you to act in ways that hold you back and prevent you from reaching your personal goals.
You overexert yourself in relationships because you fear if you don't "do the most," you'll be replaced.
You expect the worst and tend to get suspicious when things are going "too" well.
You go out of your way to avoid confrontation because you don't want people to be upset with you (including your mom).
FEAR OF REJECTION
SURVIVAL INSTINCT ACTIVATION
You take flight, lash out, or become completely paralyzed when you're triggered.
You over-commit to everyone and everything (including your mom) and often find yourself burnout and wishing you knew how to say "no."
You repress your feelings and appear outwardly agreeable even though you're usually angry and resentful.
You're constantly on alert for hidden dangers in relationships because you're used to things going wrong.
You fear being judged and misunderstood, so you keep your most vulnerable thoughts and feelings to yourself.
You feel numb more than anything else and can cut people off easily and without remorse,